And yes, it did resonate for me. I got a little excited by certain lines in that scene, such as “that feeling that something was wrong with the world. You don’t know what it is but it’s there, like a splinter in your mind, driving you mad.” And “This is your last chance. After this, there is no going back.” And to top it off: “You take the red pill and you stay in Wonderland and I show you how deep the rabbit-hole goes. All I’m offering is the truth. Nothing more.”
The truth. Nothing more. What an obvious choice.
It’s interesting to think of life with this concept in mind, and that’s probably why this scene is so iconic. Every time there is a decision to make, we could either go for red or blue.
And of course we all like to think of ourselves as red-pill-people, right? Who doesn’t want truth, reality and knowledge? But… I’m afraid it’s not as straightforward as this sounds in life.
Red pill. The coolest and most adventurous decision? Nope.
What I sometimes see around me, is that the red pill decision is associated with the craziest, most adventurous, coolest or scariest thing to do. Which then makes a good story for Monday morning or on social media (‘look at me, how cool am I’). From the above, the part that gets closest to the meaning of red pill moments -in my view- is ‘scariest’. As there is something scary and uncomfortable about the red pill option, which may drive us to blue instead.
In Neo’s situation the options are quite clear, and likely the majority of us would make the same choice as Neo. However, in real life our options are not always so clearcut and well presented by someone else. Most of the time we first need to figure out for ourselves what option is the blue pill and what option is the red one.
And that can be a bit tricky.
Let’s leave science fiction behind us for a moment and look at an everyday situation.
Feel the difference? What I believe it comes down to is this: the motivation behind your actions. That’s why the same decision (in this case taking on a leader’s role), can be red pill for one and blue pill for someone else.
And to understand your true motivations behind every decision and action in life you gotta really tune in to yourself and have an honest conversation with just you really.
Red pill. A decision based on genuine motivations
When figuring out what is red pill for you, you need to ask yourself what the true motivations are for going for one or the other? A choice can be crazy and adventurous and red pill. Or a choice can seem very minor from the outside, but feel like a rollercoaster from the inside when stepping outside your comfort zone.
When you let anything else control your decisions then you’re chewing blue; choosing for safety and the known, even although you know it is not working for you; fearful of what others will say and think; feeling better than others; a need to be liked, wanted or to impress; pleasing others or doing what you think is expected, and so on.
As DG describes it, red pill is taking ‘Pathway 1’, the pathway of courage, the hard road.
Clueless on what option is red, and which one is blue?
No pill, is better than the blue one.
As mentioned earlier, in The Matrix the options were very clear. And when you are clear headed on what you want in life, then the red pill option is pretty obvious too – the challenge then is taking it and letting go of all associated fears and anything that is holding you back.
Sometimes there are no obvious choices.
What I want to talk about now, is those situations where the lines are blurred. Sometimes there are no obvious choices. All you know something’s gotta change. Like the ‘splinter in your mind that drives you mad’. For many this is a sense of unhappiness. Something is not quite right in life that stops it from flowing. But no pills to be seen. Instead, some sense of cluelessness. I’ve been there. And I have even chewed on blue pills thinking they were red ones. I tricked myself big time!
If you like to think of yourself as a red-pill-person, then I suggest you sit back and wait for your pills to appear…
And while sitting on it and feeling into stuff, anchor into the following – from that place you will receive a clean white plate with two brightly coloured pills on it.
Five appetizers for finding your red pill
By sitting back I don’t mean anything lazy. It’s more of a ‘wait and see’. Waiting as in ‘be patient’, don’t rush into decisions. And see as in ‘be aware’.
Below are some concepts to feel into while ‘sitting back’. Make them your own. How? Just observing yourself. Take notice of what triggers you, ensure you take enough quiet time, so you can be with yourself for a bit. Here we go, you might want to have a red pill ready, just for doing this 😉